How to Send RSVP Reminder Text Messages for Your Wedding

Need to send an RSVP reminder message to your wedding guests? Text messages are the fastest way to collect RSVPs—with 98% open rates compared to email's 20%. In this guide, you'll learn how to send RSVP text messages, get ready-to-use RSVP reminder wording, and discover the best way to track RSVPs for your wedding.

In this guide:

• RSVP by Text Message Wording Examples
• RSVP Reminder Message Templates
• How to Track RSVPs
• What to Include in an RSVP Reminder Message
• How to Remind Guests to RSVP

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Why Text RSVP Works Better Than Traditional Methods

Benefits of Text Message RSVPs

1. Instant Delivery: Your RSVP request arrives in seconds, not days
2. Higher Response Rates: Texts get 98% open rates vs. 20% for email
3. Easy for Guests: One tap to respond—no stamps, envelopes, or lost mail
4. Real-Time Tracking: Know immediately who has responded
5. Cost Savings: Save hundreds compared to paper RSVP cards
6. Eco-Friendly: No paper waste

When to Send RSVP Requests and Reminders

Getting your timing right is crucial for maximizing response rates:

RSVP Timeline

Setting Your RSVP Deadline

Standard Wedding: Set your RSVP deadline 4 weeks before your wedding date. This gives you time to:

• Provide final headcount to caterer (usually needed 1-2 weeks before)
• Finalize seating chart
• Order correct quantities for favors and rentals

Destination Wedding: Set the deadline 8-12 weeks before to allow guests time for travel arrangements.

25+ RSVP Text Message Wording Examples

Looking for the perfect RSVP by text message wording? Here are ready-to-use templates for every situation:

Initial RSVP Request Wording

Formal RSVP Text Wording

We joyfully invite you to celebrate our wedding on [Date] at [Venue]. Please let us know if you can attend by [RSVP Date]. RSVP here: [Link]

Casual RSVP Text Wording

Hey [Name]! We're getting married on [Date] and would love to have you there! Let us know if you can make it by [RSVP Date]: [Link] 💕

RSVP Text with Meal Selection

You're invited to our wedding on [Date]! Please RSVP by [RSVP Date] and select your meal preference: [Link]. Can't wait to celebrate with you!

RSVP Text with Plus-One Option

Save the date! [Names] are getting married [Date] at [Venue]. You're welcome to bring a guest! Please RSVP for yourself and any plus-ones by [Date]: [Link]

Short RSVP Text Message

[Names] Wedding - [Date]. Can you make it? RSVP by [Deadline]: [Link]

RSVP Text for Destination Wedding

You're invited to our destination wedding in [Location] on [Date]! We need your RSVP by [Date] to finalize arrangements. Please respond here: [Link]

RSVP Reminder Text Message Wording

These RSVP reminder message templates will help you follow up with guests who haven't responded:

Friendly RSVP Reminder (2 weeks before deadline)

Hi [Name]! Just a friendly reminder to RSVP for our wedding if you haven't already. We'd love to know if you can celebrate with us on [Date]! RSVP here: [Link]

RSVP Reminder Message (1 week before deadline)

Hey there! Our RSVP deadline is coming up on [Date]. If you haven't had a chance to respond yet, we'd really appreciate it! Let us know here: [Link]

Urgent RSVP Reminder Text (3-5 days before deadline)

Quick reminder: Our RSVP deadline is [Date]—just a few days away! We need your response to finalize our plans. Please RSVP now: [Link] Thank you! 🙏

Final RSVP Reminder Message

Last call for RSVPs! We need your response by tomorrow to finalize our guest count. Please let us know ASAP if you can make it: [Link]

Gentle Wedding RSVP Reminder

Hi [Name]! Hope you're doing well. We're finalizing our wedding plans and would love to know if you can join us on [Date]. Quick RSVP here: [Link] 💕

RSVP Reminder for Wedding Party

Hey [Name]! Quick reminder that I need your RSVP for the wedding by [Date]. As part of the wedding party, we especially need to confirm you! Let me know: [Link]

Post-Deadline Follow-Up Templates

Gentle Post-Deadline Message

Hi [Name]! We noticed we haven't received your RSVP yet. We're finalizing our guest list this week—are you able to join us on [Date]? Just reply YES or NO. Thanks!

Direct Follow-Up

Hey [Name], we're wrapping up our wedding headcount and want to make sure you're included! Can you let us know if you'll be there on [Date]? Reply YES or NO.

Final Attempt

[Name], we need to submit our final guest count tomorrow. If we don't hear from you, we'll have to assume you can't make it. Please reply YES if you're coming!

Thank You Response Templates

Confirming Attendance

Thanks for your RSVP, [Name]! We're so excited to celebrate with you on [Date]. Stay tuned for more details as the big day approaches! 🎉

Acknowledging Regrets

Thank you for letting us know, [Name]. We're sorry you won't be able to make it, but we'll be thinking of you on our special day! 💕

What to Include in an RSVP Reminder Message

Not sure what to include in your RSVP reminder message? Here are the essential elements:

Must-Have Elements

1. Guest's Name - Personalize the message ("Hi Sarah!")
2. Event Reference - Remind them what event (your wedding!)
3. RSVP Deadline - State the specific date clearly
4. How to Respond - Include a link or clear instructions
5. Brief Thank You - Keep it gracious, not demanding

Optional Elements

• Wedding Date - Helpful as a reminder
• Meal Selection - If you need dietary info
• Plus-One Clarification - If they haven't specified
• Contact Info - For questions

RSVP Reminder Message Examples

Short & Sweet:

Hi [Name]! Quick reminder: please RSVP for our wedding by [Date]. Let us know here: [Link] 💕

With Deadline Urgency:

Hey [Name]! Our RSVP deadline is this Friday. We'd love to know if you can join us on [Wedding Date]! RSVP here: [Link]

Friendly Follow-Up:

Hi [Name]! We haven't heard back about our wedding yet—no worries if life got busy! Can you let us know if you'll be there? Just reply YES or NO. Thanks! 🙏

How to Remind Guests to RSVP

Here's the best approach for how to remind guests to RSVP without being annoying:

The 3-Touch Reminder System

Touch 1: Friendly Nudge (2 weeks before deadline)

• Tone: Casual, helpful
• Message: "Just a friendly reminder..."
• Channel: Text message

Touch 2: Deadline Warning (3-5 days before deadline)

• Tone: Slightly more urgent
• Message: "Our deadline is coming up..."
• Channel: Text message

Touch 3: Final Ask (1-2 days after deadline)

• Tone: Direct but kind
• Message: "We need to finalize our count..."
• Channel: Text or phone call for close family

Tips for Reminding Guests

• Don't apologize for sending reminders—you need the information!
• Keep it brief—long messages get ignored
• Make responding easy—include a direct link or allow simple YES/NO replies
• Be gracious—assume they just forgot, not that they're ignoring you
• Follow up personally with close family and VIPs who haven't responded

RSVP Tracker: How to Track Wedding RSVPs

Need an RSVP tracker for your wedding? Here are your options for tracking RSVPs by text:

Option 1: Manual RSVP Tracking (Spreadsheet)

If you're sending individual texts from your phone, you'll need to track manually:

1. Create a spreadsheet with columns for:

   • Guest Name
   • Phone Number
   • RSVP Status (Yes/No/Pending)
   • Date Responded
   • Meal Selection
   • Plus-One Info
   • Notes

2. Update as responses come in

3. Filter to find non-responders

4. Send individual follow-up texts

Problems with manual tracking:

• Very time-consuming
• Easy to miss responses
• Hard to send bulk reminders
• No automated organization

Option 2: Free RSVP Tracking (Limited)

Some wedding websites offer basic RSVP tracking:

• The Knot, Zola, and WeddingWire have RSVP features
• Limited to their platform's guest messaging
• Can't easily send text message reminders

Option 3: Text My Wedding RSVP Tracker (Recommended)

Text My Wedding is a dedicated RSVP tracker with built-in text messaging:

• ✅ Real-Time RSVP Dashboard - See who's responded at a glance
• ✅ Automatic Tracking - Responses logged automatically
• ✅ Filter by Status - Instantly see non-responders
• ✅ One-Click Reminders - Send to all non-responders at once
• ✅ Meal & Dietary Tracking - Collect all guest details
• ✅ Export to Spreadsheet - Download for your caterer and venue
• ✅ No Reply-All Issues - Each guest gets an individual message

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Best Practices for Wedding RSVP Texts

Do's ✅

• Include a clear deadline in every RSVP message
• Make it easy to respond with a link or simple YES/NO reply
• Send reminders to non-responders (most people just forget!)
• Personalize messages with guest names when possible
• Follow up directly with VIPs or close family who haven't responded
• Send a thank you when guests respond

Don'ts ❌

• Don't send at odd hours (6 AM or midnight texts are annoying)
• Don't be passive-aggressive in reminders
• Don't send too many reminders (3-4 max)
• Don't use complicated RSVP systems that require app downloads
• Don't forget to set a clear deadline

Timing Tips

• Best time to send: Tuesday-Thursday, 10 AM - 2 PM or 6 PM - 8 PM
• Avoid: Monday mornings, Friday afternoons, weekends
• Schedule in advance: Use Text My Wedding to schedule sends at optimal times

Common RSVP Problems and Solutions

Problem: Low Response Rate

Solution:

• Send a reminder 2 weeks before deadline
• Make sure your RSVP link works and is easy to use
• Reach out personally to close family and friends

Problem: Guests Responding After Deadline

Solution:

• Build in a buffer (set your "real" deadline 1 week before you actually need it)
• Send a final reminder stating the consequences ("We'll assume you can't attend")
• Use Text My Wedding to easily update your list when late responses come in

Problem: Guests Not Specifying Plus-Ones or Meals

Solution:

• Include specific questions in your RSVP form
• Follow up individually with incomplete responses
• Use a service like Text My Wedding that captures all details in one place

Problem: Managing Group Texts Gone Wrong

Solution:

• Never send wedding RSVPs as a group text (reply-all chaos!)
• Use Text My Wedding to send individual texts to each guest
• Guests receive messages individually—no one else's phone numbers exposed

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I send an RSVP text?

To send an RSVP text, you can either: (1) Send individual text messages from your phone to each guest, or (2) Use a service like Text My Wedding to send bulk RSVP texts to all guests at once. Include your wedding date, RSVP deadline, and a link to respond.

How do I RSVP by text?

If you received an RSVP request by text as a guest, simply reply with your response. Most couples accept a simple "Yes, I'll be there!" or "Sorry, can't make it." If there's a link in the message, tap it to fill out the full RSVP form.

What should I include in an RSVP reminder message?

An RSVP reminder message should include: the guest's name (personalize it!), a reference to your wedding, the RSVP deadline, a link or instructions for how to respond, and a brief thank you. Keep it short and friendly—long messages get ignored.

How do I remind guests to RSVP?

Send 2-3 reminder texts before your deadline: a friendly nudge 2 weeks before, an urgent reminder 3-5 days before, and a final follow-up after the deadline. Use a service like Text My Wedding to send reminders only to guests who haven't responded yet.

What is the best way to track RSVPs?

The best way to track RSVPs is using a dedicated RSVP tracker app like Text My Wedding. It automatically logs responses, lets you filter by status, and sends reminders to non-responders. Manual tracking with spreadsheets works but is time-consuming and error-prone.

Is it rude to send RSVP reminders?

Not at all! Most guests appreciate reminders—they simply forgot or got busy. Keep your tone friendly and gracious. Send 2-3 reminders maximum, spaced about a week apart.

Can I send RSVP texts for a formal wedding?

Absolutely. Text RSVPs are appropriate for all wedding styles. You can make your message as formal or casual as you like. Many couples send formal invitations by mail and then use text for RSVP reminders.

How do I collect RSVPs quickly?

Text messages have a 98% open rate, making them the fastest way to collect RSVPs. Send your initial request with your invitation, then follow up with reminders. Using a bulk texting service like Text My Wedding lets you reach all guests instantly and track responses in real-time.

What if a guest doesn't respond to my RSVP text?

After your deadline, reach out directly via phone call or personal text. For close family, a phone call is best. If you still get no response after multiple attempts, it's reasonable to assume they won't attend and plan accordingly.

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Summary: RSVP Text Message Checklist

✅ Send initial RSVP request with your invitation (6-10 weeks before wedding) ✅ Include clear deadline and easy response link ✅ Send first RSVP reminder 2 weeks before deadline ✅ Send urgent reminder 3-5 days before deadline ✅ Follow up personally with VIPs who haven't responded ✅ Use an RSVP tracker to monitor responses ✅ Export final guest list for caterer

Need RSVP reminder text message wording? Copy any of the templates above and customize with your details!

Looking for more wedding communication tips? Check out our guide on how to send text wedding invitations or learn about save the date text messages.